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My Thoughts on Marriage Equality

Most of my time here at WordPress has been spent expanding my creativity through photography. But there is another side of me that you all may not have seen. 

I have a Facebook page called 365 Days and Counting. On that page I tend to share my thoughts about what is happening in my world. I try to keep it uplifting and with a positive spin. I use to post daily….but over the last 6 months its become more like weekly. However, with the recent marriage equality ruling….my brain has really been spinning and I seem to have a lot to say right now! I decided I wanted to share some of these thoughts here at Conversations Around the Tree….so here is the post I put up tonight on 365 Days and Counting. 

Apparently not everyone is as happy about marriage equality as I am!
I heard several different news programs today that featured Christian Pastors warning their flocks not to be fooled. One pastor stood in front of his congregation and told them they had to choose between the Bible and the Supreme Court’s decision.
I know most of you are aware that I am a progressive Christian and a lesbian. And I know most of the people that follow this page are supportive and somewhat like-minded. However, I feel the need to try and explain my thoughts on homosexuality being a sin.
The reason I consider myself progressive is mostly because I don’t believe any one religion has THE answer….so no, I don’t think you have to follow Christ in order to “go to heaven.”
However, I am quite traditional in my personal beliefs. I love “high” church….incense, kneeling, Holy Eucharist, and so on. And there was a point in my life that I actually prayed (regularly)….”If this isn’t who I am supposed to be, please help me see that.” Not because I didn’t like myself….but because I wanted to be open to God’s calling for me….whatever that was.
Instead of “seeing” my way to a life of heterosexuality….I found a deeper faith in God and a deeper belief in me being exactly who He made me to be.
Despite what pastors say, as they thump on their Bibles, this life is NOT a choice. Also, homosexuality is NOT a sin.
The sin is in my actions….no different that everyone else. If I am disrespectful to my partner, that is a sin. If I am unfaithful to my partner, that is a sin. If I am hurtful or even abusive to my partner, that is a sin. But loving my partner is NOT a sin. Sharing my life with my partner, is NOT a sin and sharing a bed with my partner is NOT a sin.
God gave me the gift of love and the desire to love someone of the same gender. I believe strongly that God will not punish me for living in a loving and committed relationship. I also don’t believe God will punish the United States for legalizing same-sex marriages.
What I believe God may judge us harshly for is the overwhelming amount of poverty people in our country live with….yet we walk away and judge them as lazy.
I believe God may judge us harshly for starting unjust wars.
I believe God may judge us for our brutality toward animals.
I believe there are many things God may judge this country for….and rightly so….but love isn’t one of them!

365 Days of Photos – Day 83

Some of you may recall back in February I visited a local community garden. Having lived in Texas for 16 years it did not surprise me to see plants growing in the garden mid-winter. What did surprise me was finding a memorial to people killed during hate crimes.

Sometimes it is easy to forget how far we have come and how far we still have to go. One of the web sites quoted on the memorial for MH is Unfinished Lives. I have followed this blog for quite some time and each time I read a story about the beating death of a transgender individual,  or the arson attack against a lesbian couple, or the harassment of a gay man I can’t help but remember the friends I have lost to hate and the risk all of us continue to face daily, simply because we refuse to pretend to be a person we are not.


In loving memory of Mia Henderson. 1988 - 2014 For more information on transgender hate crimes visit unfinished lives.com

In loving memory of Mia Henderson.
1988 – 2014
For more information on transgender hate crimes visit unfinished lives.com

In loving memory of Rudolf Brazda. The last member to have worn the pink triangle 1913 - 2011

In loving memory of Rudolf Brazda.
The last member to have worn the pink triangle
1913 – 2011

May they all rest in peace….and may we all learn to choose love over hate.

It is a Loss For All of Us….

Britney and Crystal were a couple. They were young. Crystal had a 5 year old daughter. One of them was a security guard and one of them worked at Starbucks. Did I mention they were young? They had an entire lifetime ahead of them. They may or may not have spent that lifetime together….but they deserved a chance to live their lives and either make it as a couple or not. They did not deserve to die. 

I will admit I know few details about the murder of these 2 women. I did not know the women. All I know is what I have read. They were murdered…it is assumed because they were lesbians. The person currently sitting in a Galveston jail….suspected of killing these young ladies…was actually a person that should have laid his own life down to protect them. The suspect is the father of Britney….yes, the father of Britney is suspected of killing his daughter and her girlfriend. After killing them, he is suspected of transporting their bodies to another city and dumping them. He did not dump them in a lush green pasture or at the base of a rolling hill….no, he dumped them next to a dumpster. 

We know it is a dangerous world. We know there is a lot of hate in the world. We know people don’t like people that are “different.” 
But aren’t we suppose to find comfort, and protection from our family? Aren’t we suppose to feel unconditional love, kindness and acceptance within our family?

It breaks my heart that these 2 young women lost their lives, a little girl lost her mommy and quite possibly the world lost a future CEO, social worker, pilot, teacher…..maybe even a president. Sadly we will never know what greatness these young women were meant to achieve. 

All we know is they were erased from this world because they loved differently…because they were born to walk on a path the murderer did not understand.

Did I mention they were young?